Feeling Stuck? 5 Ways to Get Un Stuck

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Feeling Stuck? 5 Ways to Get Un Stuck

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We built our house almost 20 years ago! (Where has the time gone?) When I say we built it, I mean literally. We hired a contractor to dry it in, then we took over. It took us months. We moved in with bare floors and no window stills. We really enjoy working together, so it was a labor of love at many levels. When you build something yourself, it’s easy to love it so much that you don’t realize it looks dated. It was time to renovate. One of the renovations was installing new floor tile. Little did I realize what they would mean.

We purchased the tile with the intention to move swiftly through the process of removing the old tile, painting the walls and covering all the main living areas with wood look plank tiles. I had visions of easy care and stunning flooring throughout the kitchen, dining and living area of the house.

Wayne attached an hand held air hammer with a small chisel to his compressor with the intention of finishing the project quickly. After two hours he had a little more than four tiles removed. At that rate the project of removing all the tile was daunting. He sent me to the store for a wider chisel.

But, finding one that would fit his hand held air hammer didn’t happen. The only choice was to purchase a big jack hammer type tool that would chisel the tile up. I wasn’t sure I wanted Wayne to tackle the job of removing tile with that kind of back breaking tool.

I reminded Wayne that our neighbor, had offered his tools when he borrowed our riding lawn mower and saw the tile stored in the corner of the garage.

When our neighbor, who is in the business of tile removal, arrived the next evening with a trailer full of tools, he knew what to do and he had the tools to do it with.

One of the tools he rolled out was a monster that he rode into my house. It was designed to make short order of tile removal. But because we didn’t put a layer of underlayment before we laid the tile (Something we missed in the DIY instructions), those tiles were stuck to the foundation refusing to bulge. In a few places the tiles came up easily, but for the most part the tiles seemed to like it at my house.

So our neighbor drug out his huge jack hammer with a 6 inch chisel and began the task of chipping tile after stubborn tile away until the entire space was tile free. It was a daunting task. A back breaking task to manhandle that massive tool. (Wayne tested that monster out, but our neighbor did the work. He was amazing! And so was his tools!)


Those tiles were stuck to the concrete foundation like they were part of the foundation. That was never our intention. We never thought about the fact that the tile would one day be out of style or that our taste would change. We never dreamed that what we loved when we carefully laid each tile in place that one day it would be such an eyesore to us or that it could become such a nightmare to remove. But, that tile had to go before something more beautiful could be put in place.

You know I am going somewhere with this story.

Have you ever felt stuck?

Stuck to something that was wrong-

  • Sin?
  • Addictive behavior?
  • Unforgiveness?
  • Anger?
  • Fear?

Romans 13:12 The night is nearly over; the day has drawn near. So let us lay aside the deeds of darkness and put on the armor of light.

Stuck to something that is keeping  you from moving forward…

  • Pain?
  • Broken-heart?
  • Depression?
  • Shame?
  • Disappointment?
  • The need to protect your heart?

What is the name of the glue that has you stuck?

What is keeping your faith from flourishing and keeping you from reaching for more of God, more victories or more souls?

It is time to deal with whatever it is that has you stuck!

I want to tell you why you can’t get stuck in the past, even if your past includes many amazing accomplishments.

There are people watching you.

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us Hebrews 12:1 NIV


Don’t you love how Paul frames this race!

He says, “let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us.” Your race will look different than mine or even the people around you!

Run your race!

I don’t know the route your race will take. I can’t describe the faces of the people He wants you to pour His love into. Nor, can I tell you what tools you will use to encourage their faith or how you will do it. But, I know, absolutely know, that if you are alive and you are a believer, God has people that He has assigned to you. People to whom you need to proclaim truth, encourage and teach. It may be at a ball park, or in your kitchen, or walking on the beach. But, if you’re stuck you won’t fulfill your assignment and that’s a terrifying thought.

28He is the one we proclaim, admonishing and teaching everyone with all wisdom, so that we may present everyone fully mature in Christ. 29To this end I strenuously contend with all the energy Christ so powerfully works in me. Colossians 1:28,29 NIV

Maybe you’ve tried to manhandle getting unstuck.

Maybe you’ve wrestled that issue to the ground on several occasions, but you’re just not experiencing the freedom that you know you should have.

It’s important for you to remember that–

walking with Jesus is not one more self-help program.

You can’t live out your faith alone. You need the power of God to enable you walk it out. God will not do your part, so you must participate.  Neither can you do God’s part.


  1. Discover what is keeping you stuck?

Are you missing some truth somewhere?

Ask God for wisdom and discernment. Is this just a stuck feeling that is caused by wrong thinking or an issue to deal with?


It’s time to discern what is next.

9And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, 10so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless for the day of Christ, 11filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ—to the glory and praise of God. Philippians 1:9,10


2. Use the Word of God.

Are you praying and declaring specific promises from Scripture?

Make a list of verses, personalize them  and get started.

The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. 2 Corinthians 10:4 NIV

“Is not My word like fire?” declares the LORD, “and like a hammer which shatters a rock? Jeremiah 23:29 NIV

It is critical that you listen and obey Precious Holy Spirit!

Hebrews 10:36
You need to persevere, so that after you have done God’s will, you will receive what He has promised.

3. Use your spiritual authority against the enemy.

Bind the enemy and renounce his power over you.

“Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven. Matthew 18:18 NIV


4. Get a prayer partner.

Have you asked someone to pray for you?

5. Have your Pastor or spiritual leader to pray over you and to anoint you with oil.



Thank you for joining me at my table for another chat about what God is sharing with me. If you enjoyed my stories please share this link with your friends.

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What is keeping you from experiencing the Presence of God?

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Have you ever experienced an electric fence?

I NOT suggesting you ever touch one, but I challenge you to grab hold and connect with God’s power like never before. And, what does an electric fence have to do with the Power and Presence of God.  Let me explain with a story.

When my oldest granddaughter, Karyn, was a baby, I was invited to speak at a church in a rural community. They booked a room for me in a gorgeous bed and breakfast in the middle of farmland. The land adjacent to the house was a pasture with cows and a donkey. Saturday morning Wayne brought Karyn and joined me for the remainder of the meetings.

That evening we strolled along the electric fence to let Karyn see the animals. The friendly donkey saw us and started walking toward us so we stopped. The donkey didn’t  stop. He touched the fence with his nose and had what we Southerner’s call a “hissy fit!” Maybe he wanted to be fed or petted; or perhaps he had never encountered the fence before, but when he touched that fence his pain was plain. He stood there and brayed and brayed and brayed just glaring at us. He didn’t stop braying until we walked away.

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What do you do with broken things?

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What do YOU do with broken things?

It depends on whether you are a perfectionist or a re-purposer. Can I explain what I mean with a story?

Do you know that everything taste better in a pretty dish?

(I can hear my male readers groan, but please stay with me. I’m headed somewhere. I’m going to tell you about my “Souper Bowl.”)  Paper plates just don’t cut it at my house. I figure my cooking needs all the help it can get, so instead of wasting money on paper products, I indulge in pretty dishes.

We live near three awesome resale shops, so if they are open when we walk we stop to check out the new treasures. It was on one of those afternoon walks that I found a gorgeous Lenox Riverwood bowl designed by Catherine McClung.

Now take a look at the other side.

Isn’t it beautiful!

It’s a large bowl with little pinches or notches along the edge that is painted to look like it was sewn. The pheasants, stark naked trees behind fence rails and the mountainous sky line makes it perfect for the cabin. It was a  large bowl that could hold my family’s favorite chicken and sausage gumbo.


But when I turned the bowl, I discovered the bowl wasn’t perfect. A thumb sized chip was missing from one of the notches on the edge of the bowl. I decided I didn’t want it. (Who wants a broken bowl? Right?)

I checked the price online. A “perfect” version of this bowl sold online for $50.00. When I went in a few days later, the broken bowl was marked down to $2.50. Since I am always a sucker for a bargain, I bought it. I planned to put the bowl on a shelf, where I could turn the broken chip to the back side so no one would see the flaw.

As I thought about the beautiful bowl, I was surprised that no one wanted it. It was a Lenox bowl! But one chip, one solitary broken place flawed it’s perfection and the person that originally bought it didn’t want it any longer. They got rid of it. Too valuable to trash; but not valuable enough to keep! Even at such a cheap price no one wanted it…until I came along.

It’s tragic that sometimes people are treated like that broken bowl.

Strangers, friends and relatives, sometimes close ones, are judged by their circumstances, choices, sins and labeled flawed–BROKEN.


Because they are broken, they are;

  • Rejected.
  • Unusable.
  • Unloveable.
  • Inadequate.
  • Unfit.
  • Ineligible.
  • Unworthy.

Would you set a chipped bowl on your table?

Would you turn the chip to the backside so no one could see the flaw or would you throw it away? It is broken after all.

God is a re-purposer.

The perfectionist would be mortified at the thought of using something broken…but God loves to use broken people.

The Davids that murdered, the Sarahs that lied, the Peters that denied-all re-purposed-redeemed by God’s grace. God doesn’t use flawed people because of their mistakes, but in spite of them. He uses them, He uses us, because He loves us…flaws and all! He uses us because the power of the cross transforms us, redeems us, re-purposes us and makes us brand new.

Even more tragic than what someone else thinks of our brokenness , is the results that come in a person’s life when we believe the whispered lies of the enemy that tell us that because we are broken we are worthless.

Listen close.

I want to tell you, no matter how big you have failed, God has never, ever, not even for a single second, stopped loving you!

God loves you.

If you’ve failed in business, failed in your marriage or in parenting…or in life in general–God wants to redeem what you’ve lost and use you in His big plan. It might look different than you envisioned. Believe me when I tell you that God re-purposes and redeems our brokenness!

He has a good plan for your life.

He loves you too much to leave you in your sin. Sin robs us. Surrender to God, turning from our ways to embrace Truth sets us free to experience what God has for us!

I realize that some mistakes we make leaves scars!

Sin has consequences! But, don’t under estimate the power of the cross! Don’t under value the transforming power of redemption in a person’s life! When we surrender our broken places, broken hearts and broken dreams to Jesus, He re-purposes them. And He loves, LOVES to use broken people.

We are all flawed human beings that need Jesus.

We need Him not just to save us from Hell, but to enable us to fulfill our God ordained purpose.

There are some things that I know for certain about you.

God wants to partner with you to pour His love into people around you.

You can’t give what you won’t receive.

So simply receive His forgiveness, grace and love; then give it away.

Believe God wants to and will use you.

And by the way, that chipped plate or bowl in your cabinet, (A perfectionist might need to borrow one.) set it on your table. Let it be a reminder that God redeems and repurposes the bad things in your life.  When you bow your head to pray over your food, thank God for redeeming you from your sins and mistakes.

Or, you may want to use it as a visual aid to share your story of redemption with someone at the table!

Father, thank you for my beautiful chipped bowl. Thank you for my readers. I believe there are readers today that need to surrender some broken things in their life to you, dear God. Father, give them peace. Help them to receive your grace, your love and your purpose for their lives and to hope with new clarity because their hope is in you. Help them to receive your joy and to guard their thoughts and believe Truth instead of the lies of the enemy! Amen.

Thank you for reading my posts. Thank you for joining me at my table as I share treasures that God is sharing with me. If you were blessed then please share it with your friends. It helps me be a good steward and helps your friends too. God bless you! I love you.




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How to never get so satisfied that you stop reaching for more

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I’m not satisfied with my weight right now, so when my friend challenged me to lose 5 lbs with her this month I eagerly accepted. I’m working on it! I’m eating right and exercising everyday.


But, there’s a major challenge to getting that weight off.

It’s birthday month in the Holland house. Both of my kids and one grand child were born in April. Kimberly just celebrated her birthday, so I cooked all of her favorites: Chicken stuffed with Swiss cheese and Prosciutto then rolled in savory bread-crumbs. Cream style corn. Fettuccini Alfredo. Caprese Salad with balsamic glaze. Garlic bread. And, I finished it off with birthday cake. It was a wonderful meal and such a fun evening! But, I have to admit the whole meal was a dieter’s nightmare. Even the salad had to be altered for me!


I cut my portion of chicken in half…ate my salad without balsamic glaze. But I wanted more. Argh! After I finished my piece of chicken, I knew exactly how delicious another bite would be. Looking at it sitting in front of me made me want more so bad! (Did I sound totally pitiful?) Please tell me you’ve done that too!


I hate bathroom scales!

Those bathroom scales measure every bite of everything I eat…even if I eat it secretly! So, I refused the ice cream cake; both the first and second serving. But, believe me I wanted more! (I didn’t even lick the knife before I washed it!)


The bathroom scales kept me from being satisfied and reaching for more delicious food.

But, the question that I want to ask you…what is keeping you for reaching for more of God?


Have you got all you need?

Or perhaps all you want?

Are you satisfied?

Too weary?

Simply afraid?


Paul described his personal dissatisfaction with where he was in Philippians 3: 12-14

(NKJV) Not that I have already attained, or am already perfected; but I press on, that I may lay hold of that for which Christ Jesus has also laid hold of me. 13 Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, 14 I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.

Oh, how that dear man of God, Bro. Paul, challenges me!

With all he had accomplished, written, preached, encouraged, impacted and yet he was not satisfied and continued to reach for more!


What kept him from getting satisfied?

What kept him reaching for more? He explained it in verses 7-10

I once thought these things were valuable, (Let me interject. Paul is talking about his accomplishments and credentials here.) but now I consider them worthless because of what Christ has done. Yes, everything else is worthless when compared with the infinite value of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have discarded everything else, counting it all as garbage, so that I could gain Christ and become one with him. I no longer count on my own righteousness through obeying the law; rather, I become righteous through faith in Christ.[c] For God’s way of making us right with himself depends on faith. 10 I want to know Christ and experience the mighty power that raised him from the dead. I want to suffer with him, sharing in his death, 11 so that one way or another I will experience the resurrection from the dead! Philippians 3:7-10


  • Jesus became His # 1 priority. His values changed from his credentials to knowing Christ Jesus.
  • Lived out his values. Dumped everything else so he could have Christ.
  • Lived beyond his means by accessing God’s ability. Trusted in God’s righteousness.
  • Lived to win the prize.


When I look at Paul’s list, I have to ask am I…

  • making Christ our # one priority?
  • practicing that priority in our everyday life?
  • living beyond our means to access the ability of God?
  • in it to win it?

What about you? Have you embraced Paul’s why, so you stay focused to win your race!

Therefore repent and return, so that your sins may be wiped away, in order that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord; Acts 3:19 NASB

What do you do when you ARE guilty?

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When you sin…you ARE guilty!

Don’t get the idea that because you’ve done something wrong  that you have you carry guilt. God has a much better plan for you. He came to take your sin and your guilt. But, you have a very important role in getting rid of guilt too!

Your role!

  • Don’t make excuses. (It’s so tempting to blame someone else or excuse what we did with “That’s how my family deals with anger”. It’s easy, but don’t.
  • Embrace God’s higher Truth! Truth, real truth that uses  Scripture and Precious Holy Spirit inspiration for True North, is a valuable moral compass. Without a moral compass we get lost and stay lost.
  • Truth isn’t always congruent with your desires or those of the culture we live in.
  • If the Bible says it’s wrong, then it is.
  • Because  we’ve all sinned, God knew you would need forgiveness. So, Jesus came to eradicate your sin!
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deal with guilt. Unwarranted the refuse it.

Not Guilty!?

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not guilty. When we repent God forgives us and declares us not guilty.

Not guilty. Then why do I feel guilty? And when I am guilty, why do I want to hide it?

I’ve noticed, that at least kids have the same problem that I do.

One of my favorite television shows is America’s Funniest Videos.

Sometimes I laugh so hard my face hurts. The clips that amaze me the most are of little kids that are caught red-handed in the middle of doing something wrong and they bold-face deny that they were involved. You see the chocolate (or whatever) all over their face, their clothes, the floor and the furniture and yet they continue to shake their head in denial.

But the truth is–that desire to cover our wrong doing never stops.

Why is it so hard to admit our guilt?

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Jesus Forever Changed the Meaning of the Cross

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Why would anyone wear a cross around their neck?

I’m sure you know what happened on a cross! It once was a place where people were crucified; and it is a slow, agonizing, HORRIBLE way to die!

How does a cross of gold or silver,  even when it is bedazzled with scrolling or diamonds, make it around our necks?

Did we forget all that bad stuff about what a cross was used for when we wear a cross?
Maybe some folks don’t think anything at all when they put a cross around their neck. But we should! Because that cross means something!

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How to Enjoy Your Life More

Is there something you can do that will actually help you enjoy your life more?

If there was a valid answer would you change what needed to be changed?

Maybe you’re cautiously answering, “Well, that depends…”

Have you ever thought about the fact that most folks have so much and enjoy it so little?

That trait is much easier to see in other people-

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2 Really Great Reasons You Should Be Filled With Hope

Maybe is should seem obvious, but sometimes it’s not. That hope filled glow can be seen on children’s faces and in nature’s majestic artistry. Sometimes we see through eyes that are strained with drudgery, pain and struggles. It’s in those times that we need to be filled with hope. And it is in those times that we can’t seem to find any reason to hope.

Nature seems to be waking up from it’s long Winter nap.

Just not feeling it!

The Azaleas beneath live oak trees draped with moss like tinsel are covered with glorious fiery fuchsia colored blooms. The Red Bud Tree has budded with clusters of tiny, happy flowers. Yet the birds seem to be the happiest of all; with all their singing and flitting from tree to ground, building or repairing their nests. Busy, busy winged creatures, preparing for their babies.

The vibrant, sunny colors and creatures are prophesying to the farmer, announcing, what he already knows, “It’s time to plant.” Stirring thick clouds of black and red and brown dust behind him, farmers in the South are already preparing the ground for the seed. Even with modern machinery farming is lots of hard work.

It’s risky work!

It’s expensive to plant a crop.

  • The machinery.
  • The fertilizer.
  • The time.
  • And there’s no guarantee that he will have a good harvest.
    • It’s risky…but a farmer plants because he has hope.
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1 Reason You Can’t Let Fear Stay

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Maybe you can think of a dozen reasons that fear shouldn’t hang out at your house, but I can tell you one great, big, huge, hairy reason it can’t stay at my house.   Before I share this 1 reason you can’t let fear stay, let me tell you how I learned that lesson.

I was writing God’s Laws for Kids, so I was studying Exodus and Numbers 13. I love the Old Testament stories especially anything about Moses. Moses is one of my heroes! My story begins at a crucial moment in Israel’s history.

It was time to take possession of the promise.

It was a promise that God made to Abraham. Some folks may have felt that the promise was old and dusty, like Joseph’s bones…after all it had been passed down and around for well over 400 years. But, Moses showed up one day, with his brother…sent by God to meet Moses, as he made his way toward Egypt. They had both heard from God. It was time-time for deliverance and freedom-and God was going to use them to lead His people out of Egypt.

Not just out, but into the wonderful land God had promised Abraham. (Genesis 15:4-20)


God described His Promise

to Moses  when he bowed before Him at the burning bush.

8So I have come down to rescue them from the power of the Egyptians and lead them out of Egypt into their own fertile and spacious land. It is a land flowing with milk and honey—the land where the Canaanites, Hittites, Amorites, Perizzites, Hivites, and Jebusites now live. Exodus 3:8 NIV

  • Fertile.
  • Spacious.
  • Flowing
  • With nourishing milk and sweet honey.


They were out, and now it was time to go in…

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Finding Strength

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Many retailers and manufacturers have adopted a “just in time” mentality in regards to inventory. Instead of stocking inventory, it is ordered and received right when it is needed. Sometimes strength arrives “just in time” too!

I am a visual thinker.

That means I almost always want to know what something looks like. Most of the time I picture strength as bold and showy like the bulging muscles that drive a bully’s drawn fist. And, I forget that it can be seen even more accurately in the tenacity of a skinny-armed kid defending his brother.


I forget that strength can look different sometimes.

I forget strength can be gentle and relentless, like a bubbling current tumbling and polishing rocks in a riverbed. Strength that is demonstrated in kind words and deeds instead of hurling angry retaliatory ones. Strength that persists through difficulties. Or, strength that sees the best in people and speaks life into them instead of regurgitating the criticism that everyone else sees.

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What Do You Do With a Broken Heart?

What do you do with a broken heart? No really?

What do you do with loss?

And grief?


Heartbreak of all kinds?

If you follow my blogs you know that I written several times about strength lately.

I haven’t been able to get away from the subject of strength. I am convinced God wants His children to be strong!!! I’ve been working really hard on a post about how to build spiritual muscles that I planned to use this week. It was almost ready when the Florida School Shooting took place. Valentine’s Day this year broke so many hearts. One more time America was shaken with a senseless…insane shooting!!!

After the news broke of the shooting, I felt like I needed a different strength;

a quieter strength,

a calming strength,

a shareable strength.


I can’t explain why bad things happen.

If bad things only happened to bad people, I might try to form an explanation. But the truth is…they happen to the best of people.


And when things happen that I can’t explain,

I default to my core value…

“God is Good! Period! End of story!

I may not understand it, but I won’t blame it on God either. God is way smarter than I am, so I gave up a long time ago trying to give God advice. His ways are higher than mine.


I also know that the Devil is evil and we live in a fallen world.

But the “why” question is simply too big for me to unravel…from the books I read and the Scriptures I’ve searched, God doesn’t seem to offer much of an explanation. It remains a mystery that refuses to fit in any of my neat little boxes.

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Hey! Thanks for stopping by.

I’m Pat Holland…

I tell stories- who doesn’t love a good story?

But I tell mine for a reason. I want to equip, empower and energize people just like you to enjoy the riches of God’s life-changing Word. So I use stories about people, sometimes myself,  places I’ve been, and life experiences as a tool to make Bible truths so simple you can walk them out in your everyday life.

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